Holding My Breath

August 18, 2009
Over the last few weeks our Adoption Profile has been circulated three times, and just this last week it has been marked as a favorite for a woman here in the Seattle area. She wants to look at "just a few" more profiles to make sure we are the right people and we should know by next week if we're going to be interviewed. I've been frustrated by the waiting in the past, and have felt rejected by the last few we've been passed over for. But to be honest, This time, I know what ever happens it was supposed to happen this way. I have peace. And while I'm holding my breath in anticipation, it's not in a stressful negative way. I am feeling confident in God's soverienty in the situation. I have people praying for me and I feel like things are happening for the best. 

I'm excited, but I'm not overly excited. I know what ever happens it's the right thing and I'm one day closer to my child. Tomorrow I could be a basket case, but right now...I'm doing ok!

People to remember in Prayer:
Peter and his PSA
Peter's wife, who has interesting landmarks on her MRI
Aundrea and Scott who are dealing with fertility issues.
Abbey and her battle with MERSA
And Chelsee in Seattle.

Remember to breathe!
 

Where does the money go...and where can it come from?

August 18, 2009

Application fees: initial and formal. 

Finger Printing 10.00 per person for up to two cards each

FBI processing

Training fee

Home Study Fee

Web Profile hosting and development fee

Medical fees

Final Placement fee

Legal Proceedings 

Pass Through Costs: Costs incurred by the birth family that a judge allows them to ask reimbursement for from the agency, which then gets passed through to the adoptive family. Most of the time unless the child is in NICU for several days prior to official placement, this d...


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De-mystifing the Home Study

August 18, 2009

When we began our adoption process, the portion I had the most concern about was the "Home Study" even today my friends are not quite certain what the home study process was all about. 

The Home Study is actually a large document. (Think mortgage papers) Interviews, financial paperwork and applications are enclosed and a visit to the home is detailed in the home study document. Candidates for adoption are evaluated by questionnaire (the one I answered was 40 questions long and it was personal)...


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Fertility a New Perspective

August 18, 2009

When I first realized I wasn't going to be able to have biological children, I was angry. I was angry at God for taking my motherhood from me. I have always wanted children. Even when I was a child I knew I wanted to be a Mommy some day. So, for me to have my fertility in jeopardy initiated a fear that I would never be a mother, that produced anger toward God, the world, irony, etc.

But once I calmed down, after some yelling at the ceiling and God, and crying in the shower, I came to a realiza...


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Storytelling vs. Explaining

August 18, 2009

Don't you want your own children?

Why would you want to adopt?

Where are you adopting from?

American babies are all drug affected aren't they?

Why don't you try in-vitro?

It's so sad you have to adopt.

You're so lucky you won't have to give birth.

How much does it cost?

Whoa, that's expensive, can you afford it?

Questions and comments like these are common for a couple looking into adopting a child to hear. I have been asked all of the above by people as close to me as my mother and as unkn...


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We took the plunge

August 18, 2009
In February of 2008 we stopped wasting time. We'd been married for nearly nine years and had been trying for pregnancy for three. We decided that God's Plan was obvious. Our child would be an Adopted child.

After filling out endless forms and writing our life story we were placed on the Bethany Christian Services web site. We were approved and posted on our ninth anniversary and we're currently waiting to be selected by a birth mother. I've never been so excited or stressed in my entire life. ...

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